Thursday, August 30, 2018

First is the Worst, Second is the Best,, Third is the one with.....Is it over yet????

The third trimester wasn't all so bad. The beginning of it was like an extension of the second trimester, with a few random Braxton Hicks contractions. Luckily, they are not painful. A lot more peeing and getting up at night, but nothing major.....yet.

At 36 weeks, she dropped. Now, I hope that yours goes after this point and definitely not before, because once it happens, you will want baby out! Every movement from the upper body is in your uterus and bladder. It is quite uncomfortable and sometimes even painful. And the pressure down there is beyond annoying. Forget sitting with your legs closed or crossed. Anything but spread eagle is severely uncomfortable, ,so stock up on those long dresses if it is hot out, or at least nothing too short.

As time goes on, the contractions will become more significant and tight, but it will still be a while before they actually start to hurt and do anything productive (like push out a baby). Practice contractions are normal for the last month or two as your body gets ready to give birth. Doesn't sound like fun? It isn't really. But..... you are almost there!!!!

Usually the first sign that you are getting close is your mucus plug falling out. It can be all at once, or like me, you can lose it in pieces. Mine came out in two, 2 days apart. The first one was like a massive booger, followed by a lot of what looked like a lot of snot that required a change of clothes (luckily I was at home). It is very often referred to as the "bloody show", but after mine came out and I did some research on it (to be sure), I found that it is not always bloody. I had some spotting a few days before it started coming out and called my OBGYN. They told me to come in to be safe, but it was probably just the start of my mucus plug coming out. After everything checked out ok, they sent me home and sure enough 4 days later it was out. But, just yellowish in color, no pink, red or brown as I was told it would be (sorry for the TMI). The contractions after that became more regular (especially at night), but have yet to become more severe.

Now, at 38 weeks and counting.... I am ready to go and over it. I hope she comes soon. I am ready to meet you, Baby Girl!!!


Monday, August 20, 2018

Lists

Hospital Bag Checklist
  Need Packed Gifts for hospital staff?
Mom Liscence  
  Insurance Card   Toiletries: Hairbrush
  Baby Binder (empty folder)   tootbrush
  Robe   toothpaste
  Nightgown/PJs   chapstick
  Warm Socks/Slippers   deodorant
  Phone Charger   makeup
  Headphones   hairtie/clips
  Camera (charger, card, batteries)   bodywash
  Toiletries   shampoo
  Snacks   conditioner
  2 Extra Outfits (maternity)   lotion
  2 Nursing Bras   witch hazel
  Tank Top (easy access)   
Loose fitting dress  
  Eye mask for sleeping  
  Ear Plugs  
  Maternity Underpants  
  Heavy Duty Pads  
  Notepad/pencil  
  Baby Book  
  Flip Flops  
  Disposable Underwear (Depends)  
Nipple Cream/ointment  
  Nusing Pads  
  Towel  
  Breastfeeding Pillow (leave in car)  
  Bottle of water  
  Extra bag or 2  
  Tablet/charger  
Plastic bag for laundry  
  Coconut water  
  Loose pants for after birth (2-3)  
  Cleansing face wipes  
  ziploc bag for keepsakes  
  Baby bands/stomach support  
     
     
   
Dad Pillow  
  Blanket  
  Toiletries  
  Snacks  
  Cash for vending machines  
  Change of clothes (2-3)  
  Eye Mask/Ear plugs  
     
Baby Going home outfit (1-NB, 1-0/3mo)  
  hat  
  Some newborn diapers/wipes  
  Carrier/Carseat with base installed  
  Receiving blanket for carrier (cold)  
  Gloves  
  Warm bodysuit for in hospital (2-3)  
  Pediatrician contact info  
  Burp cloths  
  Bow/props photos  
Post Pardum Supplies
Mom Maternity Underwear Pads: Depends Silhouette S/M Maximum
  Heavy Duty Pads  (3-7 days/about 20)
  Nursing Bras
  Nursing Pads Always Maxi "purple" overnight 
  Nipple Cream/ointment extra heavy flow (About a week/25-30)
  Stool Softener
  Flushable Wipes Always regular for about 4-5 weeks
  Hemmroid Pads/Ointment  (6 weeks total)
  Tylenol
  Nursing Tank Tops
  Loose Clothing
  Disposable Underwear 
  Witch Hazel/wipes/spray
  Ice Packs for after birth
  Seamless high waiste mesh panties
 

My Bags are Packed....I'm NOT Ready to go!!!!

There are four very important lists that you need to make, whether or not you actually start packing your hospital bag. The first one is your hospital bag. Search online, ask family and friends, or write a post on those mom Facebook groups you are in asking what was helpful, what was useless, and what was forgotten but wished for. What works for them may not always work for you (like a robe - some are too hot after birth, some get cold), but it is a great guide and a great place to start. Having a list before you actually start packing is a perfect way to make sure you have what you need, don't over or under pack, and avoid having to unpack and repack it too many times.

The second list what paperwork you need to bring with you to the hospital. You may need to talk to your OBGYN as this day gets close, or call the hospital. Some hospitals offer classes that give you this paperwork or have an option to pick it up or download it online. It may not be much, but having an admission form already filled out and your birth plan ready to go will save you time when you arrive while having contractions.

The third one is short an easy, but also important. Type it, print it, put it in your hospital bag. It is your call list. Everyone knows which family members to call once the baby is born (or do they?), but there are some other very important calls that need to be made shortly after your little one is born. This should include, but is not limited to your health insurance (or hubby's if that is the one the baby is going on), the pediatrician to set up your 2 day baby appointment, your breast pump company (if you have one that does not release it until the baby is born) and any other places that need to be informed of your child's birth.

The fourth and final list is your postpartum list. Wait, you didn't know that there would be more items other than baby items that you will need after you give birth? Between the pain and discomfort, whether from vaginal or cesarean birth, there are many items you should have ready to go at home before you go into labor. I cannot perfectly speak from experience.....yet.....but I do not want to have to run out or have dad run out to pick up things I need as we go when baby girl is here. It is much easier to return what I don't use. Especially when it comes to things like pads and stool softener. Plus, who wants to risk him getting the wrong ones??? Lol.

The next post will have just the lists in it for your viewing, if you are interested. I will post later a follow up as to what may or may not have been beneficial on them, but it is a good place to start. If you have any recommendations to add, please comment below and let us know your experience.

Saturday, August 11, 2018

Smooth as Buttah!

What is the best thing about free samples? Being able to try out products before having to spend money on them to find out whether you like them or not. This is ESPECIALLY important when you are pregnant! Why? Because your sense of smell, the sensitivity of your skin and your patience are all very different during this time? Patience? Yes!! Because I am going to tell you today about the items I tried for stretch marks and patience comes into play when drying and absorption times come into play. Waiting for them to dry so you don't feel gross when putting on your belly band, or leave stains on it, can play a BIG role in deciding what you want to use, if anything. Some of you may be fine just sticking with lotion, especially if you don't have a lot (or any) stretch marks.....lucky you. But, helping the elasticity of your skin can help prevent them (just in case) and help after when you are trying to shrink it again. Here are the ones I tried and what I thought....

1. Belli Beauty Elasticity Belly Oil Stretchmark Protection. I did love how easy it was to spread around my belly so I did not feel like I was wasting any or going through it too quickly. I had a few sample packets, and each one lasted about a week. Each one also came with a sample face wash as well for acne. My biggest problem was the smell. I could not stand it!!! With either product. It may have just been my sensitive pregnancy nose, but I feel like they should take that into consideration when choosing ingredients and smells on pregnancy products. It also took a long time to absorb into my skin. I felt like I was waiting forever to finish getting dressed. Not good when you are trying to get ready for work. I also did not feel like the face wash did anything. It was hard to keep on because of the smell, and I did not notice any difference with the acne I had (which was not much, but still....).

2. Palmer's Cocoa Butter Formula Massage Lotion for Stretch Marks. This one was better for me than the Belli. It was also easy to spread and dried very quickly. The lotion was nice and not too thick. Still, the smell bothered me. It was more annoying than anything else. It did not smell like Cocoa Butter, but I can't quite put my finger on what it was. Either way, I had to move on....

3. Motherlove Pregnant Belly Slave. While I have heard nothing but wonderful things about this company, this is one product that I definitely was not impressed with. I may try more of their products in the future, but do not recommend this one. It was very thick and very hard to spread. I felt like I was using so much and wasn't even getting all of my belly (imagine if I also needed some for my back, boobs or thighs!!!). It was also the slowest to absorb into the skin and dry. I would stand in front of my fan to try and help it along and it would STILL take forever. The smell on this one really bothered me as well. It has a really funny smell that I felt stayed with me all day. Not my cup of tea....

4. Palmer's Cocoa Butter Skin Therapy Oil. I kind of liked the oil better than the lotion. It was hard to use out of the pouch and you had to move fast because it dripped down my belly (which ticked a little), but it was easy to cover my whole belly with a small amount. I also had to wash my hands after because I didn't like the feel of it on there. The smell was the same as the Palmer's lotion, but didn't seem to linger as long. Fairly quick to dry, especially with the help of a fan. I would definitely say it is worth a try, but you make not like the oil....

5. Bio Oil for Skin, Scars Stretchmarks and Uneven Skin Tone. The last one i tried (well, bought because I used it before for stretch marks when working out a lot and really liked it a lot) was Bio Oil. It is on the expensive side (though all of these are, which I think is crazy. That's is why I recommend and only used during my third trimester), but it is worth the money. Also, you can use it for other reasons, so if you have any leftover it will not go to waste. It has a very light odor and a very fast dry time. I feel like it gets absorbed the second it touches my skin. It also does not linger on my hands, so I don't have to run back to the bathroom to wash my hands right after. Maybe just dry them on a towel if I use a little too much that day. It is very easy to spread over the skin and cover any areas needed. I also like how it does not drip. It has a good top that allows me to put right against my belly and disperse in small amounts all over then rub in. Check with your doctor, but it should also be safe to use on any scarring after birth, especially if you have a C-Section.

Good luck to all of you during the end of your pregnancy. And, if you have tried any other products that I have not mentioned, please comment and let us know what and how you liked it. I would love to see what else is out there.....for next time..... ;)

Monday, July 30, 2018

Sharing is Caring.....or is it?

By sharing, I mean the info about every step of your pregnancy. This is something every single person has a different opinion about, and NONE of them are wrong. When do you tell people? Do you find out the gender? Who do you tell the gender to? Do you have a gender reveal? What do you share on Facebook? Each of these answers are yours and yours alone. It is no one else's decision, and what info and when you decide to share is between you and the father. Do not let other people's decisions help you make yours. Also, every pregnancy is different. My little girl has been head down the ENTIRE pregnancy. I hear it over and over.... "She is in a perfect position for birth, but not for seeing the gender". Or a lot of other things for that matter. My anatomy scan took forever because it was hard to get accurate answers because of her position, and the fact that she hates having her picture taken, so she constantly moves during Ultrasound's (not a good start for this Professional Photographer of a mom). My insurance did not cover the blood test, so there were many "It looks like a....." and "I'm going to say it's a....." before we FINALLY, at 27 weeks, got "It is DEFINITELY a girl!!!!" What did this mean for us? Not much, but no gender reveal party (as we were already sending out invitations for the shower) and a gender neutral bedroom (which didn't bother me anyway, I love the black and white look).

I am not a flashy person, so we didn't tell most people about the pregnancy until half way through our second trimester, then made a cute announcement to post and that was it (I am a photographer after all). The "gender reveal" was a sticker on the back of our baby shower invitations that said "It;s a girl" and another photo collage of us opening a girl onsie and posted on FB. And, even though they were all A Nightmare Before Christmas theme, we did not post a lot of photos, updates, or anything else pregnancy related. It's just not our style. But, some people love these sort of things. Maybe you had a hard time getting pregnant and want to celebrate this amazing part of your life as much as you can. Maybe you want to get as much partying and family time in as you can before your little one arrives and sucks up all your time (at least for a little while). Maybe you want to show off each week how you are growing (I took every 4 weeks and plan to do one composite towards the end), or maybe not, but in the end, how you do your pregnancy is what is right for you.

Oh and maternity photos? I say SERIOUSLY think about it, or just do it!! You may not always feel you best, or prettiest, or fit into much, but they are a great memory and something to look back on and feel good about. You may never show them to anyone, but they are not for anyone but you. And, it will be last photos you take before the little one arrives as a couple, or family of X (if this is not your first). It does not have to be much, but at least something will make you smile when you look back at it in the future.



Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Expos! Expos! Expos!

Have you made your registry yet? Yes? Great!! No? Why not? Is it because you don't know what to put on it? Research and asking friends and family with kids can be helpful, but what better way than to go check out items first hand and hear from the people who know the products best. Even if your registry is already set, you may learn something new and change your mind. I sure did.

And, don't forget about the freebies!!! Free samples, items, coupons and also really great deals on things you may know you want, or fall in love with there. Now, don't go crazy. I, personally have never bought anything at an expo. Every booth will give you a coupon or discount code that you can use online to purchase their product if you do not get it that day. I, also, always went without my partner (most men are very bored at these types of things), but still wanted to discuss products with him first to decide if it was something we felt we could use and benefit from.

Some Expos can be very expensive. Check around for free tickets before you buy, or other ones that may be coming up soon that may be cheaper. I really enjoy the ones by Expecting Parents and Baby (you can find them on Facebook) because they are usually about $20/family and often have specials where you can get free or discounted tickets. They also have awesome welcome bags and booths. My favorite are the ones from Huggies and Babylist (which were at both I went to) because they both have amazing things to give away.

Another great thing to check out, if they are not at an Expo you go to or you can't make it to one, is Pumpspotting. It is an app that lets you know places near you that are good for breastfeeding or pumping, but they also have an RV that travels around providing information, a place to breastfeed, pump or ask questions about it from other mothers and volunteers, and often have freebies to give out. Like them on Facebook to keep track of where they are.

Below is an image of everything I got from one Expo, just to give you an idea. Each expo is different, but there is always great things to get and learn about at each one.


The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

Ok, so the only good thing about this post is if you do NOT get any of these things. Everyone, including me, prepares for the morning sickness (even though you can never really be ready for it), and some things here I may have already mentioned. Still, this post will go into the things you don't expect, and that one day you, too, will hopefully forget.

1. Itchy skin. In a past post I went into this a little bit, and how much Lubriderm can help. Still, it may be worse for some. Especially if you are pregnant during winter when most people are more prone to dry skin. Drink plenty of water and keep lotion on hand. You will need it more than you realize.

2. Bumps on the stomach. This is more of an annoyance than anything else. They don't hurt or itch, just feel funny when you put stuff on your belly. They may decrease, but mine didn't. At least, not yet (at 32 weeks right now).

3. Headaches and Nausea. Maybe these will disappear for you after the first trimester, but not likely. When people ask how I feel, I honestly tell them good, some days better than others, because it is the truth. I had no morning sickness, but that doesn't mean some days I didn't wake up feeling drained, with a mild headache and some nausea. Most of mine was during my third trimester, but they happen at any time. Take the day if you need it. It will get you back on track and feeling better, rather than pushing yourself too hard. You need your energy to create your beautiful baby.

4. Bleeding Gums. It is not anything that hurts, or is really that bothersome. May taste a little weird, like metal, if you brush too hard and they bleed a lot, but that is the worst of it. Buy a soft toothbrush (if you don't have one already) and brush slowly and gently. I also found that mouth wash helps a lot too (Crest or any other non-alcohol one so it does not burn). I rinse after to make sure my teeth are well taken care of and to help stop the bleeding and metal taste.

5. Food Aversions. Everyone tells you about the cravings they get or had during their pregnancy, but no one tells you about the things that make you sick to your stomach to see, or sometimes even think about. I could not stand the thought of eating some of my favorite foods, including all Chinese food, Japanese food (I'm a vegetarian, so I could eat sushi if I wanted to...but, no...), Thai food and Indian food (see a trend? Lol). I also could not stand the taste of Colgate toothpaste (Crest was ok) and regular Tums (had to buy the chewy ones only!). During the third trimester, pasta got added to the list, with the occasional exception of Mac 'N Cheese. I also was turned off by alcohol and coffee, though not the worst thing since you can't have one and must limit the other during pregnancy. Early on, tea was ok but gone by the second trimester and things changed from one day to the next. Sadly, I really did not go through a strong "craving" phase. It was more frustrating trying to figure out what I could stomach each night vs. needing something specific. Decisions are hard enough without added aversions to add to the list.

6. UTI's. Pray you don't get one of these. They can get bad quick. Luckily, I caught mine early. Two days of cramping and finally it got so bad, I knew it had to be something else. What causes them? Baby. Mine was because she was against my bladder, making it hard for me to properly empty it. A week of antibiotics (yes, certain ones are safe during pregnancy, and there are plenty of reasons you may need them) and I was good as new. If left untreated, it can cause a bladder infection, which is not good for you or baby. Don't freak out or worry, just call your OBGYN if you feel something may truly be wrong.

7. Sneezing and Coughing. Ok, so clearly I am going in no particular order, because these can start almost right away. But, as you get further along in your pregnancy they can become more of a nuisance. They will probably be less often, but stronger and cause some temporary pains (usually in the stomach, lower abdomen or side) or some minor incontinence (aka pee). A light pad or change of underwear near by may not be a bad idea as the months go on.

8. Hard Stool. Let's hope that you are lucky like me (knock on wood) and do not get hemorrhoids during your pregnancy, but that does not mean that you are in the clear. Besides that you can still get them post labor, at some point during your pregnancy, you may also experience hard stool. This may be because of where the baby is, how much of your nutrients the baby is taking, or your diet (white rice=bad). It is painful and usually there will be blood (which can be scary), but the good news is it doesn't last. Witch hazel wipes and ointment can help ease the pain, but change your diet, drink a lot of water and rest. If it doesn't go away in a few days, call your doctor.

9. Blood Blisters. What no one told you about these dark and painful little bumps that can show up anywhere on your body? Including "down there"!  And trust me, when you can feel one and not see it, it is even worse. Trying to get a good look with mirrors, asking someone to help look, calling your doctor and trying to explain something you can't see.....not fun. Luckily, they do not hurt for too long and they eventually go away. There is more blood, especially during the third trimester, in that area, so things like this are more likely to happen.

10. Painful feet in the morning. It is something that is easy to forget 5 minutes later, but by the second trimester, you may experience sore feet when you first wake up in the morning. It is completely normal, since all the blood to your hands and feet slows down when you lay down when pregnant. On top of it, a lot more in general is going to your stomach, so the other areas may get a little less. This can also lead to tingling in your arms in the middle of the night or when you first wake up. I only get that sometimes, but the first few steps every morning hurt. But, with the urge to pee and the pain and pressure from having to pee, it is easier to walk it off than it is to wait for it to go away (which is just sitting on the edge of the bed for a few minutes and letting the blood get back to your feet), but by the time I am done in the bathroom, I am usually fine. It will all depend on how long you have slept and how swollen your feet are (mine did not swell much) that will help decide which works better for you.

Doesn't Sound like fun? It isn't....always. But the sonograms and seeing your little one grow, the shopping for little clothes, feeling your little one move.... those are the good times (even if some of those movements feel weird or a little painful). And remember, maybe you will be lucky (like me with the morning sickness) and not experience all, or any, of these. Everyone is different.... like the women who say "I loved being pregnant" (which I personally will NEVER understand, lol).